One of the most important things we can do for ourselves and others is to simply be present. And yet, in this day and age, it is the thing that we seem to do the least. As a culture, we are consumed by our devices. Lost in smartphones. Absorbed in non-reality. Totally checked out from what is directly in front of us.
In some of my workshops, I ask people to soul gaze with one another. They are asked to communicate only with their eyes. No talking. No moving. No gestures of any sort. The results are almost always the same. At first, most are uncomfortable. Then, as the connective energy inevitably forms invisible bonds between humans, they start to realize: “Hey, that person is not that different from me.” “I can feel their heartache. I know what that feels like.” “I can sense their kindness.” “I can sense the infinite universe in their eyes.”
When you are truly present, boundaries dissolve. Because, cliche or not, we. are. all. one. We are all made up of atoms and cells and beating red hearts. We all know what it feels like to lose something or someone. We all want to feel loved.
Presence has become this illusory thing.
How many times do you talk to someone and they are typing on their phone?
When was the last time you actually actively listened? And I don’t mean the type of ‘listen’ where you’re crafting your brilliant response of how they ‘should’ live their life while they talk to you. I mean, really listen. Tune in to their heart. Ask them how they feel. Encourage whatever lights them up.